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Of the 131 quarterly infections in April to June, 65 were MSM infections and at least some of the 37 infections of so-far undetermined source were expected to fall into the same category, he said. The figure is both the highest quarterly number and ratio of MSM infections on record.
By contrast, Wong said, the trend for heterosexual infections had remained stable in recent years. “The MSM epidemic is a big challenge in HIV prevention and control,” he said, with rates many times higher than other at-risk groups.
Most infections in the MSM community result from unprotected sex. “I am not sure why but maybe some members in the (MSM) community are just ambivalent. They don’t have enough awareness or concern about the risk of infection, or they just ignore the issue,” said Wong.
In contrast to Grindr’s rapid popularity, the Department of Health’s mobile app targeting MSM has picked up few followers so far, Wong admitted.
The most effective way to tackle the epidemic, however, he said, was through safe sex education and regular HIV testing – something currently done by around 40 percent of Hong Kong’s MSM population.
“If safe sex can be taught at an early age, it is useful for future protection,” Wong said. “Interestingly, from the surveys we have done, we found that condom use when an MSM first has sex is correlated with consistent condom use in future.
“We don’t know why but this finding is quite consistent. So it would be useful if they could be taught to use condom when they have sex when they are still quite young.”
Paul Ramscar, a Hong Kong businessman and gay rights advocate who is launching a Pink Dollar smart phone app to promote gay-friendly bars, shops, nightclubs and restaurants, said it would be wrong to single out Grindr for blame in the rise in HIV cases.
“It’s a tragedy when this happens to someone but ultimately the buck stops with the individual. They need to be looking after their own health,” he said. “If they want to take the risks, if they want to play what is effectively Russian Roulette by not using a condom, then maybe there are going to be consequences.”
Look, he’s never going to change while you keep saying it’s over then go running back to him. He knows you don’t mean it.
Stop threatening him with that, but tell him in no uncertain terms that he either stops what he’s doing because it’s threatening your marriage or it’s over.
But you have to mean it. However, you have to ask yourself if you really want to be with someone who batters your self-esteem till it’s nothing and makes out it’s your fault, before laying down conditions on which he’ll take you back. How dare he? It’s mental abuse.
Why bring up your girl in a relationship where she thinks that’s how women should be treated? If you can’t stand up to him for yourself, do it for her and say that you won’t be treated like this.
I understand it’s easy for me to give you this advice as I’m not in love with him, but at some point you have to find the strength within yourself not to put up with this and to break the cycle of threatening him with leaving.
Draw on your friends and family for support – don’t struggle on your own. Why not take your daughter and stay at your mum’s or with a friend? Whatever you do, he needs to know you mean business.
I think he’ll end up on dating sites his whole life, as I can’t imagine many women putting up with that kind of behaviour.